Monday, February 11, 2008

You will never have the life you see in the movies.

Stop it. Stop kidding yourself. You will not be glamorous or walk down some red carpet in Hollywood. You will not be greeted by dignitaries or world leaders. You will not be handed wads of cash and have a bottomless bank account. You will not own your own jet or island. You will most likely not be rich and famous. Get over it. Deal.

You will have to do your own laundry. You will have to pay for car repairs and fly economy class. You will struggle to make ends meet and probably go into debt sometime or another. You may have a wonderful spouse and family but will have days of sadness and days when the kids are driving you absolutely crazy.

This is called life. It is not the end.

For the most part we spend our time doing the boring daily stuff. Life is usually not exciting. For this traveler life usually feels like…well, work. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy my life and am very happy with my job, my wife and kids and how most of my days go. But…but, sometimes I am fooled to think that I should be living some different life. I shouldn’t have to work so hard to make ends meet or to maintain a relationship. Sometimes, sometimes I am even tired of being religious. There are days it seems like a long one-way conversation with God with Him off doing his own thing; like playing perfect golf or If He were me (and I am glad He s not) He would be out riding the motorcycle, playing volleyball or basketball, even out spear fishing (and actually getting some beauties to roast over the fire…hmmm, didn’t he cook fish on the shore somewhere?).

Some days are just hard. The bills pile up the debt somehow gets out of control, the family is a mess and I (we?) sit and wonder, “What happened here?” And then to make it worse we see some add or some tv show or worse yet, a Hollywood movie and our mind starts thinking crazy stuff, that our lives would be better if they were like those in the movies. Better. Now here is the thing. All those things, adds, tv, movies…ARE NOT REAL.

So I need to remind myself, what IS real. What is real is my family and although we can drive each other nuts we have a love, a bond which is not crazy or fake or fabricated. My wife loves me. Really. I know, I am amazed as well. I do have friends. They do care. That is real. The debt, the tooth ache, the screaming kids, and well sure they are real too but are also passing.

So back to not being rich or famous…still stands. The majority, like 99.9999% of us will not be famous. But to those who love you. You are. You are a king to your kids. You are a hero to your wife when you walk in early from work hand her flowers and after dinner do the dishes. Your kids, shoot man, they think you are superman…wonder woman.
So, you are. Money, interpersonal crap…it will happen, but remember what is most important, what is real is those around you.

On being tired of being religious. Well. Stop being religious and start talking to God, start thanking Him for the air you breath, start reading stuff He designed for you to read. Spend time with Him instead of wishing it were something different. Stop comparing, start living the real life.

And know, that to me, you are all fabulous. Keep the faith and keep it real.

His
Kevin